Praying for Spiritual Oneness in Your Marriage?

faith marriage spiritual May 30, 2019

It can be discouraging to not be on the same page spiritually with your spouse.

Part of the joy of marriage is intimacy...into me you see. This is where you are able to share your hopes, dreams, goals, but also your vulnerabilities, fears, and concerns. Sometimes, when you're not on the same page, it feels as though some conversations are hands off and you lose this place of deeper connection and oneness. This is not to say that you must always agree in marriage to be satisfied, but that it can be a challenge for some individuals where you toss the hope of being on the same page because you're not even on the same book. (no pun intended)

Here are keys to breakthrough in a spiritually disconnected marriage where one is a believer and one is not, or one is pursuing a deeper relationship with the Lord than the other.

Think of this like washing dirty hair. Sometimes in these situations, you get negative thoughts floating around your head and you need to wash it off.

  1. Wash: You need to start with washing your own heart and expectations that can be clogging your view of your spouse. Heal your wounds and adjust your expectations so you avoid offense. Sometimes, we can get easily offended or even get in the way of what God is trying to do for the person we are married to.
  2. Rinse: Allow Holy Spirit to flow through you and don't quench the Spirit or grieve Him. Get God's perspective and reveal His heart to your spouse. There's nothing so transforming to another person than to hear God's love for them. Speak to your spouse as though they are the very words from God who loves him/her.
  3. Repeat: Marriage is perhaps one of the most significant relationships a person would have and also can be the messiest. Be sure to recognize that renewing a relationship does not always happen quickly. Repeat the wash and rinse cycle until you see transformation come to your marriage as you contend for breakthrough.

For more on this topic, listen to my podcast, Unveiling Heirs, the episode released on May 25, 2019.

If your a woman who longs for your husband to be the spiritual leader and find yourself discouraged, sign up for the e-course Renewing the Heart in an Unbalanced Marriage.

Click here for a downloadable note on this topic.